I have been pondering all day how, or even if, to write this post.
People blog in different ways, some have lots of information, some bare all, some seem to have the perfect life/partner/children.
I certainly don't bare all, I'll put in quips about the children's behavior, I will never blog about disagreements I have with Malc, I will sometimes ask for advice.
As this is real life and Edens long awaited party has been spoken about and well wishes have been sent I don't feel that I can just move on without some mention of the party.
I'm not giving full graphic details and names but will give the basic happenings here and I hope you all understand why.
Edens party was finishing at midnight, some guests were sleeping over, girls only, no boys allowed to stay and the other girls parents who Eden was sharing the party with were upstairs all evening. These were the rules, everyone was happy, there would be alcohol and we were trusting people to be sensible.
About an hour after the party started one of Edens friends seemed to be extremely drunk, they were all surprised as nobody had seen her drink much. They called her Mum to pick her up, she lives about 25 miles away so they knew she would be a while.
Meantime the girl started being sick, the parents upstairs were already on their way downstairs after hearing the music stop, waiting a few minutes for it to begin again and guessing something was going on.
The girl became unconscious and an ambulance was called. The paramedics stated straight away she'd taken something, probably meyths, which we'd never heard of, otherwise called, speed, skank or ice. ( Crash course on the Internet last night!)
She was taken to hospital along with her Mum.
Eden called us to come and pick her up, the other friends parents had told everyone they had to go home and were very shocked about the episode. We entered the house to be confronted by some extremely upset and shocked teenagers, a lot had already been picked up.
The other friends parents were mortified by what had happened.
We brought Eden home and we were up until 3am talking with her. She was extremely upset and shocked by what had happened.
I text the Mum of the girl in hospital this morning and she's OK, she was in resus for hours and her heart did in fact stop but luckily they doctors managed to bring her back.
This young lady comes from a loving hardworking family, her Mum is one of the nicest ladies I know.
Everyone is completely shocked, none of her friends knew she took drugs, didn't know she had taken any thing that night and quite a few are blaming themselves for not knowing.
The only thing good that has come out of this at the risk of sounding callous is that this will stay with those party guests for a long time, they will be able to see that drugs are not glamorous, they saw her do some pretty undignified things that she wouldn't have been conscious of.
Today Eden has received so many texts and phone calls from concerned friends that it had sort of taken over the day.
She's at a church choir rehearsal at the moment which she didn't really want to go to but I think she'll be fine when she gets there, I think she needs a little time out from the phone calls.
She's torn between being gutted her party was ruined, being angry and then feeling so sorry for the girl. She can't believe she didn't know her friend was taking drugs and by the stories coming out now could have been taking them for several months.
Hopefully they will all be able to move on from this, I think it's all been a bit close to home for them.
I am very proud of them all for the way they've handled themselves, rallied around to comfort each other and although a few have been a bit hard nosed about the girl most have been very compassionate and plan to be as supportive as they can.
Luckily this incident had a good outcome, many of them don't!
So, in whatever way you send your healing wishes to people, whether by prayer, positive vibes, meditation please send some to this young lady, her family and to all her friends who will be marked by this incident for a very long while.
Thank you x